My daughter is going to middle school for the first time and is nervous and apprehensive. How can we calm her fears?
Transition over time
First, make sure YOU aren't nervous about the transition. My daughter can always sense when something is wrong long before we tell her.
Second, have a get together with her friends and their parents soon before school starts to make this transition fun. Another parent did that when our second child was entering middle school. It was fun and the kids were able to make a plan on where to meet on the first few days to support each other.
Mother to three children
Talk about it
My daughter was the same way. We talked about why she was feeling nervous. I found out that it had a lot to do with her clothes and how she looks. So we made outfits with older clothes along with some new pieces for the first weeks. It was fun for both of us.
Mother to one daughter
Everyone hates middle school. I know I did. But I try not to let my daughter know it just yet. I want her to have her own experience and not be prejudiced by mine. Make sure you acknowledge her feelings and give a lot of support. Since this is your daughter, I would recommend the book Queen Bees and Wannabees by Rosalind Wiseman. It is a great book on how girls interact and in middle school that interaction sometimes trumps the education that they are there for.
Mother to two children
Source: Tidewater Parent Magazine