Saying Something Bad
This morning while getting dressed, I handled my daughter a sweatshirt type vest to wear over her thin shirt. She has P.E. today and has complained about getting hot when they are forced inside due to the weather. "Wear this when you are not in gym to stay warm. You can take it off during gym." The vest has a little meaning for us. It is gray, far from her favorite color, but since it was free, I took it. I then cut out flowers and hearts from a large iron-on patch. Together, we decided where the patches should go. She loves it mostly because of the special touch we added. But this morning, when I handed it to her, she frowned. "What's wrong? I thought you liked this vest?" I asked. "I do but last time I wore it, Daisy (not her real name), gave me a funny look and said 'why do you wear that?'" I then blurted out something about Daisy's looks. My daughter looked at me and I quickly left the room. "What did you say?" she said following me. "Never mind," I answered. "No, tell me," she said. I then had to tell her if she asks again, she would lose her lunch treat. I felt really bad. Have you ever done something like this? If so, what did you do about it?







Saying Something Bad
Of course...and Im with Kristen on this...I think honesty is the best policy. I would explain that you said something you shouldn't have...that you regret saying those words now. My boys and I have had this conversation many times. That sometimes, even as adults, we say things we shouldn't. But it is important to realize we were wrong and apologize. Even if you didn't say the "mean words" to Daisy, you shouldn't have said them. Kids get it. They are quick to understand and forgive our mistakes. Thank the Lord!
Um, yeah, a
Um, yeah, a couple/hundred/million times. And I hate myself each time. But I am getting better. I would tell your daughter that you were angry that a "friend" could be so hurtful and that you spoke before you had time to think, and could she help you remember to think before you speak -- even when you have a really,really good reason to be mad. I think doing things like this shows kids that parents can mess up and own up to it and even give their own children the power to correct/help Mommy.
Kristen De Deyn Kirk
Editor, Mytidewatermoms.com